WHAT'S A GIRL GONNA DO

I feel very excited to write about this, it's an issue that cuts across many ladies old, middle age, young and from different works of life. A career lady, a business lady, or a student (by student I mean one in the university and not under aged secondary school girls. So if you are following my blog this post isn't for you, so sorry sweetie).

This topic is more like a follow up one of my post "EVERY BODY HAS THEIR OWN ROBIN" but strays away a bit because though it involves someone you're in love with but the difference here is that you are a lady and you don't know if it's right to let him know how you feel. Okay let's get in.

What's a girl gonna do when she finds out she's in love with a man. Now this is not just some guy you met, could be an old school mate you grew up with, your team mate or close colleague in the office,  your landlord's brother, even your best friend. The thing is that unconsciously you got so used to him that you fell in love with him without noticing and sadly he doesn't know.  At the sound of your ring tone or phone's notification you are hopeful the message or call is from him, when you hear his voice from afar you unconsciously starts arranging your look, when he passes by a smile breaks from your lips, when he gives you that friendly hug you wish it will last a little longer. Agreed you are in love with your friend from afar, and it's killing you inside because he has no idea and can't see the green light or read the signs and of course he is insensitive to your needs. Sometimes you are sad and cannot explain why, even when he is the one asking. How can you tell him you have been nursing a feeling in your heart for him? How will you start? How will it sound? Will he laugh? Will his friends giggle foolishly when he tells them? Will your girlfriends call you stupid? 

 

This might be okay in some part of the western world seeing how modern civilization and technology has taken over, a girl can practically woo a guy on a social media platform even directly in some countries but this is still a no! no! and definitely frowned at in Africa and Nigeria precisely, our culture expects the man to make the move always. I asked one of my male friends about this issue and in his words he said "I'm yet to see a naija babe that has successfully said it first without sounding desperate" Could my friend be right? Is this a case about her race? Is it about the way she relates/says it? or is it about the recipient (the naija guy)? You see one can also be wrong in their ability to decoding what was said and might perceive it as wrong, not necessarily because what was said was wrong.

What's a good girl gonna do really when she finds out she is in love with a man. (Reminds me of one of my favorite Bollywood movie.."Kuchi Kuchi Hotai") Your pride and dignity is at stake, yet you can't help this feeling and you are afraid of losing him someday. Maybe one day he will jokingly tell you about the girl that has caught his fancy. 

Hmmmmmmm what would you rather have her do, I mean a decent girl in this condition. Could she talk to him? Would that be right? What would her mama say... is she out of her mind? And also what kind of a relationship would it be, if she makes the move. Lets air our views and I will tell you what I think.