This is a topic many married
women love to discuss and the single ladies dread but really I see no issue
in it. Who really are mother-in-laws? I know you know they are the mothers to ones husband. But when the phrase is mentioned what comes to mind?
Fear – trouble- witch- lack of
peace or an intruder? What really comes to your mind?
This brings me back to when I was
in secondary school; I and my hostel mates were having a discussion, when
one of us immediately mentioned that she prays her mother-in-law to-be dies
before she’ll ever meet her husband.
Waoooo I thought to myself, that
was rather harsh and a barbaric mindset, but would you blame her, No! certainly
not. It was the level of information she was exposed to at that time and the
society we live in. I know some of you still think like my old school mate, but
truth be told it is wrong. Hardly would you watch a home video without displaying
the mother -in-law as a troublesome character. But is this always true, no! Is
it sometimes true, yes! Your mother-in-law’s mannerism is a reflection of how
you perceive her, and hence your behaviour towards her. I said this to say, if
ever before you met her, or the day your man took you to his home your heart
beat kept skipping, something about your disposition will send the wrong signal
to her and she gets to be a little suspicious about your personality and
thereby defensive.
These women are humans and they
are sensitive too, once they were girls like you are, if they were sweet and fun to
be with then, they will not automatically change with time and age.I am aware that some mother-in-laws' behaviour
might as well be a result of their age. It is true that a younger, older and
much older woman will not respond to a particular situation in the same way.
Now, do you realize that you can even have a young classy updated mother-in-law?
Gone are those days when women were not educated, today women are schooled and
they are busy running their enterprise and have no time to move into your homes
to monitor you as you think. Like I often tell people whatever you fear will
come to you, just like the man Job in the bible. And even if you get to meet a
troublesome mother-in-law, who says she can not become sweet? Why give up on
her or pray for her bad? Remember you too will also be a mother-in-law someday
and that daughter-in-law of yours will pray for your bad too.
In my opinion, the
problem often time begins from the wify......to be continued (Tomorrow I will
give my reasons as regards the statement above and how you can make it work)
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