Written by Iwediokpulu Quincy
“I sincerely lay no claims to being more knowledgeable than anyone, yet these are just my own thoughts and understanding which can be freely criticized and debated on -please feel free to if you disagree. However I do believe I know better than I knew yesterday and many years before. The sincere purpose thus, is to reach and bless someone out there. Knowledge isn’t power unless it is shared. Enjoy!”
I think it was a month ago. I had just finished the last dress I was working on for a wedding party that was going to go-down that weekend and my back was aching terribly. So, ignoring the heap of clean clothes that I was meant to fold and hang for the week, I jumped on my bed and tried to stretch my back. It ached so badly that I could hear the muscles in it cracking noisily and so, I began to wish there was someone to help massage it but then, I heard my phone beep. Shit! The phone was right across the room on my sewing machine. Muttering grudgingly beneath my breath, I struggled out of the bed and walked to the sewing machine. It was a ping from my friend Ijeoma...
<<< IJ baby>> 9:13PM
Q……
HOUSE DE LA’Q 9:16PM
Hi sweet….sup?
<<< IJ baby>> 9:17PM
Are you done with the dress?
HOUSE DE LA’Q 9:19PM
Yes o…No be small thing…my back wan fall
<<< IJ baby>> 9:22PM
Lolx…ndo!
HOUSE DE LA’Q 9:23PM
Thanks love….how far na??
<<< IJ baby>> 9:25PM
I get gist for you o
HOUSE DE LA’Q 9:26PM
Ehen…what happened?
<<< IJ baby>> 9:27PM
Eh…one bobo track me today o
HOUSE DE LA’Q 9:29PM
Ehen? See ghen ghen o….
<<< IJ baby>> 9:30PM
As in eh…I go meet that lawyer na wey I gist you about
As I wan pass door…na some dude from no where come run, open am for me
HOUSE DE LA’Q 9:31PM
Hehehe…no be small thing. Love at first sight
<<< IJ baby>> 9:32PM
I come tell am thank you…begin dey go my own …
only for him to follow me reach my car.
HOUSE DE LA’Q 9:34PM
Hope say he ask for your number o
<<< IJ baby>> 9:35PM
Wait na…the gist neva finish. You know those their usual pick up lines na. “Your face looks familiar bla blah blah?
HOUSE DE LA’Q 9:37PM
Lolx.yea
<<< IJ baby>> 9:39PM
He say he don see me somewhere before and all that and asked if I went to Yikpata youth camp during service. I told him yes and he said “ toh” say him see me for mami market that year although we never spoke and he never forgot my face.
HOUSE DE LA’Q 9:42PM
Lolx. The guy don dey see your face since be that.
<<< IJ baby>> 9:43PM
Lmao..you no well!
HOUSE DE LA’Q 9:44PM
Lolx. Eh leave am like that. So wetin come happen?
Shey he collect your number..abi na pin you give am?
<<< IJ baby>> 9:46PM
Nah...He didn’t o. He didn’t even ask for my pin.
He just helped me into my car and I drove off…
HOUSE DE LA’Q 9:47PM
Huh?
<<< IJ baby>> 9:48PM
Yes o. Me myself I was surprised but I then realized that he must have known the lawyer I went to see. So maybe he go collect my number from am.
HOUSE DE LA’Q 9:50PM
Eh maybe…
That was my last response that night as I scratched my head in thought and dropped my phone. But that wasn’t the last time we had that conversation. My friend IJ kept expecting the dude to somehow call.
“He was cute…very cute and was extremely nice to me” she kept lamenting and I wanted to tell her: He was probably just being nice and was definitely a gentle man. But because gentlemen are so rare in this part of our world, we assume that any little courtesy they extend to us, has ulterior motives which wasn’t always the case. We unfortunately read more into those amazing gestures, whereas they were simply being nice.
My friend Ij cried. She insisted that since he didn’t ask for her contact, she should have asked for his. And I wanted to ask her:
“What if it had been his job to open the door for you and escort you to your car? He could have been a valet, for all we knew. You were obviously already taken away by his charm that you didn’t even notice his uniform?” but I was sure my friend wouldn’t want to hear that. To her, she had just lost a golden opportunity to have been with an amazing guy. After all he was single….
But you see, the fact that these men single or not are” gentlemen”- they open the door for you, pull out your chair for you at dinner, let you get into a car before them, help you with your bag if it appears too heavy, buy you flowers, pay for lunch or dinner, dust your seat for you before you sit, kiss your fingers- doesn’t mean they will make excellent boyfriends or husbands. As a matter of fact, it doesn’t even mean they are really into you. It simply means they were brought up properly and have profound respect for women generally and which by the way also means, they would do the same to all women without ulterior motives. So you see, to them you are just like every other women who deserves respect. To them, they are simply being nice.
I wished then that I was able to tell my friend all of these but fortunately, our next conversation was about some other dude who never helped her into her car but did ask for her number.
So you see...LoL
Last time on Sincerely Q
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