Inspiration
Written by Royal David Igbinedion
About 6 days ago we all shouted happy new year and there was this feeling of Freshness, Newness, New year's resolutions, dreams, wishlist and so on.
But for some it's just a cliche to shout Happy New Year because nothing has changed, same desires as other past years at the top of their wish-list, which is "To become a Bride".
In this part of the world and sadly arround the world women gets more pressure than men about being married, especially when they are of certain age. It's not surprising to see that the number one desire on a lady in her early 30s' wish-list for the year is to get married. Beyond a desire its like a goal, a target. Is your desire for the past years to become a bride? why hasn't it be granted? Who is to grant this wish?
Now there's nothing wrong in wanting to be married especially when you are Ready in all capacity. But there's everything wrong when you are blinded by this desire of yours and can no longer differentiate between right and wrong. You shouldn't be sad because you are not married, don't be willing to do anything just to change your status. Only you have the responsibility to grant this desire. You can not be doing the same things as in the past years and expect a different result this year.
First of all is your being married just a wish or something that is real to you, and you are prepared for? If you know this is beyond a wish then it's unrealistic for you to wish to become a bride when you haven't been in a relationship or you're currently not in a relationship. You won't be married to yourself, would you? As unbelievably as this sounds there are some ladies in their mid 30s who go to church everyday praying for a husband but they are not and haven't been in a relationship, reasons being:
1. They are too shy like our Indian ladies...hehehehehe to talk or stand with a man. OR over spiritual.
2. They have a mental picture of the kind of man they want and all toasters/suitors are far from it. Pardon me but I call this being too selective.
3. No guy seem to be looking at their side even though they seem to posses good character or they are simply not appealing or attractive.
4. They lack good character.
For some they have been in a relationship but it never leads to marriage. It's your responsibility to find out the WHY and how to remedy the situation. While you are at it, move on happily with your life, improve yourself and develop on your potentials, Work on your character and personality, Be sweet and assessable, don't compromise your values, know that it's okay to chat with a guy, and get to know each other in a Godly, decent relationship.
It's my believe that a woman should be:
1.Beautiful inside out (Do not underestimate the place of your looks)
2. Subtle but firm
3. Smart, Witty and Intelligent
4. Innovative and creative
5. Have a great sense of humour, friendly and can play
6.Clean, neat and an organizer (packaging)
7. Speaks well, clean and full of decent words
8. Should have an aural of Grace and Splendor
9. And have the X_factor whatever the X means to you.
If after possessing all these and your wish is not granted by the end of 2016 please see your pastor..lol
Marriage is a normal phenomena of life and will happen, don't think about it too much. When you least expect it will happen and you too will become a bride/wife and the top of your wishlist will be changed into something new for 2017.
Written by Royal David Igbinedion
About 6 days ago we all shouted happy new year and there was this feeling of Freshness, Newness, New year's resolutions, dreams, wishlist and so on.
But for some it's just a cliche to shout Happy New Year because nothing has changed, same desires as other past years at the top of their wish-list, which is "To become a Bride".
In this part of the world and sadly arround the world women gets more pressure than men about being married, especially when they are of certain age. It's not surprising to see that the number one desire on a lady in her early 30s' wish-list for the year is to get married. Beyond a desire its like a goal, a target. Is your desire for the past years to become a bride? why hasn't it be granted? Who is to grant this wish?
Now there's nothing wrong in wanting to be married especially when you are Ready in all capacity. But there's everything wrong when you are blinded by this desire of yours and can no longer differentiate between right and wrong. You shouldn't be sad because you are not married, don't be willing to do anything just to change your status. Only you have the responsibility to grant this desire. You can not be doing the same things as in the past years and expect a different result this year.
First of all is your being married just a wish or something that is real to you, and you are prepared for? If you know this is beyond a wish then it's unrealistic for you to wish to become a bride when you haven't been in a relationship or you're currently not in a relationship. You won't be married to yourself, would you? As unbelievably as this sounds there are some ladies in their mid 30s who go to church everyday praying for a husband but they are not and haven't been in a relationship, reasons being:
1. They are too shy like our Indian ladies...hehehehehe to talk or stand with a man. OR over spiritual.
2. They have a mental picture of the kind of man they want and all toasters/suitors are far from it. Pardon me but I call this being too selective.
3. No guy seem to be looking at their side even though they seem to posses good character or they are simply not appealing or attractive.
4. They lack good character.
For some they have been in a relationship but it never leads to marriage. It's your responsibility to find out the WHY and how to remedy the situation. While you are at it, move on happily with your life, improve yourself and develop on your potentials, Work on your character and personality, Be sweet and assessable, don't compromise your values, know that it's okay to chat with a guy, and get to know each other in a Godly, decent relationship.
It's my believe that a woman should be:
1.Beautiful inside out (Do not underestimate the place of your looks)
2. Subtle but firm
3. Smart, Witty and Intelligent
4. Innovative and creative
5. Have a great sense of humour, friendly and can play
6.Clean, neat and an organizer (packaging)
7. Speaks well, clean and full of decent words
8. Should have an aural of Grace and Splendor
9. And have the X_factor whatever the X means to you.
If after possessing all these and your wish is not granted by the end of 2016 please see your pastor..lol
Marriage is a normal phenomena of life and will happen, don't think about it too much. When you least expect it will happen and you too will become a bride/wife and the top of your wishlist will be changed into something new for 2017.
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