THE FUTILITY OF PERFECTION

He is Educated and successful. Respected in the community ...deeply religious and he beats his wife.... These were the words that fell into my ears from the conversation between two people as I sat in a bus on my way back from church..... That statement lingered in my spirit and led me to pen my thoughts..."The futility of Perfection"

What do you call perfect....in your relationships whether between couples, colleagues, children, what do you see in them and what do you want to make of them. Perfection is not static or didactic, it's variable in nature, this is because something you called perfect yesterday might just become not perfect at the advent of a new design or style. It cuts across many things Technology, Fashion, Music, even Education. Life is progressive the fact that the new modern smart Tv's we've got now are excellent and can be called perfect doesn't mean the ones our fathers had in d 80's weren't excellent, they too thought what they had was perfect. 

Now since you understand my theory as regards perfection, why do you look for perfection in people and in your relationships? It's futile. You can't have it all in one. You might say she is all I ever wanted, she's got the brains, beauty curves everything. If your decision to marry her was based on all of these, what will you do when months later her curves are covered up with fat? Like the man in my opening statement, seemed like the perfect man to an outsider but only an insider can tell. He is tall and rich but I can't stand his accent. She is pretty and successful but got this bad temprament. He is loving and caring but I can't shake off the feeling that he cheats. Everything about her is cool but the girl eats too much and more so she is too loud.

If you look deeply there is always this one thing or even more than one that tries to place a coma or a BUT on people's personality. The problem is not them or what they do, rather the problem is you who is looking for perfect. Stop concentrating on the bad and start concentrating and celebrating their good. True love and maturity is when you admit and say I see your errs but I chose to love you still, after all that's the kind of love God has shown towards man. With time you'll discover your spouse is all you ever needed and not want, you wouldn't want to trade your kids for any other in the world, and also  realize that your boss is actually a nice lady. Generally your relationship with people will improve.