The school shooting saga is fast becoming a thing, people are no longer feeling safe to send their kids to School because when they drop them off and say goodbye, it might just be for the last time and that's so terrible. However the recent Santa Fe shooting left so many thoughts resonating on my mind. An the big question is Who is Raising our Sons? Sons who will eventualy becomen Boys~Men~Husbands.
News have it that the Santa Fe shooter got rejected by his classmate who he has been wooing. She had turned him down several times and he wont relent, she even got parents and principal involved but to no avail instead he's becoming aggressive. So the last time he tried making advances at her, she embarrassed him in the presence of their classmates. I'm not sure exactly but I guess they probably made jest of him and he retaliated by planing their death, poor girl lost her life, along with two of her teachers and seven classmates.
I shared the behind the scene story (not sure if that's the true story or the real reason behind the shooting, but the late girl's mom said so in an interview) so that parents and society can put in as much time and effort as they do in grooming the female child, with the male child too. There are so many NGOs, Seminars for the girlchild, what about the boys?
{Someone should look into this for the male child, if it's not existing already} Girls are not the only ones being molested these days, and if its for character building, both boys and girls needs it. Gone are the days where girls alone has to be groomed for marriage. Both party has to come in with something good and tangible.
Growing up in Africa, there were so many do's and don't for girls with little or none for boys.
The girls were told;
"Don't sit like that"
"Don't play with boys"
"Dont let a boy touch you, you will get
pregnant"
"Dont shout or speak too loud" etc...
Who is telling or teaching the boys to;
"Not walk like that"
"Don't dress like that"
"You don't have to flex your muscle to prove your point or that you are a man"
"It's okay for boys to cry and show emotions, it doesn't make them weak"
"It's wrong to hit a woman, do not do it"
"Do not sexually get involved with a girl when you're not responsible enough to marry her"
"Do not get a lady pregnant"
"Do not cheat on your wife"
"It's not okay for men to cheat and it's not a nature thing"
"It's okay to get rejected, accept it and move on (maybe the person can't see you for who you really are, or maybe you need some work on yourself and harness your potential)"
I mean I can go on and on, on so many things our boys/sons need to be told with great values instilled. It will save us from school shooting, domestic voilence, Baby Daddy's drama, Gangsters etc. The past generation has done theirs, lets do better with both sex of our kids. Don't just tell them what your forefathers told you, evaluate the concept behind what was said, is it significant in today's world? tell your kids the right replacement if any.
In the case of marriage there are so many seminars/shows/programs for women, do's and don't to make marriage work, like the onus of a successful marriage lies solely on what the woman does or do not do. There are programs for Her to attend, books to read, tapes to watch etc.
Who is telling the man:
"Pray for your wife"
"love and respect her"
"show your kids how beautiful marriage is with their mom"
"It's okay to be broken and cry in worship before God as a man"
Lets teach our men too not just the women. And men do better for yourself to reachout, to get help and be humble enough to learn and unlearn, then only can you inturn teach our boys/sons.
NB: I'm in no way in support of bullying, making jest of others or bringing down their self esteem. May the souls of the departed students and teachers rest in peace.
Royalty.
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